•03/05/2014 • Leave a Comment
When I go visit someone’s house (which is not often, but when I do), there are a couple of things I observe closely. One of the things I google is their book shelf (if they have one). If they do then I go through the titles. Some titles I have read (big win, we can resonate), some are completely new (new list for my to read list), and some are just totally random. I wonder why would someone read this book? I mean that some books don’t integrate with the person. Oh well we have free will.
I have noticed the difference between people with book shelves and those without them is the depth of the conversation. People with book shelves can go on and on and the topics may vary. They also have a good sense of humour. On the other hand people without the books, what they rely for the conversations is their smart phone. The phone is the source of the conversation. That sucks. You will know what I mean for those who do it everyday. They unlock their phone and start their phrase with “Did you know, have you heard, check this out, wow, let me tell you…” The smart phone people can’t think for themselves. Their phone are essential for their thought processing. While readers, they have the power to think. They generate ideas and problem solving without searching for answers on Google or Facebook.
There is a saying that goes something like “you can tell a lot about a person by the way they drive.” I would like to say you can say a lot about a person by the books they read. It is because books shapes our thoughts, our thoughts shapes our actions, and the actions shapes our character and so on and so forth (you know the drill). The book provides the source for thought. So it’s critical what we fill our minds with everyday. GIGO – garbage in, garbage out. We are what we eat. In other words, we are what we read. I came across this fabulous saying by a fabulous person, Cicero:
“A room without books is like a body without a soul.“
So a great big round of applause for people who have book shelves! Also, Cicero has inspired me to review my book shelf and just wanted to share with you what I have. It’s a small collection but it keeps me busy in my free time.
P.S. Must have books for your shelves: Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson and To Kill A Mockingbird by Lee Harper.
•03/02/2014 • Leave a Comment
Crazy Ones: people who think different and has gone to change the world.
If you observe the conductors carefully there is one fascinating fact about them. The don’t make a single sound. In other words, they lead the orchestra without the use of words.
One of my favourite teachers is Ben Zander, the conductor for the Boston Philharmonic Youth Orchestra. He states that conductors never makes a sound because he depends for his power on his ability to make other people powerful. This is worth quoting again.
“The conductor depends for his power on his ability to make other people powerful.“
So his role as a conductor and a teacher is to awaken the possibility on other people. There is no better description for a leader.
What’s my role as the platoon commander for the Marine Corps? To Awaken the possibility of my men.
•03/01/2014 • Leave a Comment
I took a milk from the fridge and before I drank it, I checked to see what the expiration date was. April 11th. That’s good enough so down went the milk. It’s quite interesting how our food has an expiration date or a shelf life. The food is good before it goes bad. Once it reaches that date then it ends up in the trash and no one will care to take a second look at it.
This date even applies to people, the retirement age. It’s like this expiration date where people no longer are expected to economically contribute (so leave and we will give you money for free, pensions) so they need to retire. It is a sad thing to think that I will no longer be useful far far away from now.
So I want to make sure that when I reach that date, wherever I am and will be, I am a useful person. Let’s just hope I won’t end up in the trash. It’s not where people belong.
•02/06/2014 • Leave a Comment
“경탄이란 어떤 사물에 대한 관념으로, 이 특수한 관념은 다른 관념과는 아무런 연결도 갖지 않기 때문에 정신은 그 관념 안에서 확고하게 머문다.”
다른 관념과 아무런 연결도 갖지 않는 특수한 관념, 그것은 한마디로 말해서 다른 것과 비교 불가능한 관념을 말한다. 지금까지 실물로 본 적이 없는 거대한 폭포 앞에 서는 순간, 우리는 입만 바보처럼 벌리고 경탄하게 된다. 다른 것과 비교할 수 없을 정도로 압도적인 풍경이기 때문이다.
우리가 사랑에 빠지는 사람은 낯선 사람이다. 이 사실을 곰곰히 생각해보면 미친 짓이다. 평생 모르는 낯선 사람과 사랑을 시작하게 할 수 있는 힘이 바로 경탄 아닐까? 진정한 사랑에 빠지려면 경탄하는 능력이 있어야 한다. 다른 사람이 보지 못하는 그녀에 대한 나만의 특수한 관념, 나의 심장을 뛰게 하고 온종일 그 사람만 생각나게 하는 특유의 압도적인 매력, 이 모든 것은 경탄 없이는 불가능하다. 따라서 사랑은 경탄과 함께 시작되고 경탄과 함께 유지되는 것이다.
•02/03/2014 • Leave a Comment
“Time lost is time when we have not lived a full human life, time eunenriched by experience, creative endeavour, enjoyment and suffering.“
I’m just a human being who’s trying to live a full life everyday of my life and if suffering is part of that full life, then I shall accept it with a little more open arms. I guess life is a package with both joys and sadness. So it shouldn’t be a surprise when suffering knocks on a believer’s door. Open it and let it come in. Maybe it’s a visitor sent from above with a message.
By the way, I once had a dream to play the guitar really really well. I still have that dream and I continue to play the guitar. Now a bigger one of course.
•01/26/2014 • Leave a Comment
ROKMC – The flag of Iwo Jima
“I wish there really was such a thing as a Time-Clock Puncher, though. I wish some gigantic, surly, stone-fisted Soap Mahoney-type guy went around the world smashing every clock in sight till there weren’t any more and people got so confused about when to go to the mill or school or church that they gave up and did something interesting instead.”
― David James Duncan, The Brothers K
Make the best of each day by making your ordinary tasks extraordinary. Go do something that will blow your mind away!
•01/26/2014 • Leave a Comment
Professor Fondse and moi at my graduation.
It’s the people you meet in life that change you and mentors can have a tremendous impact in your life. I asked one of my mentors at Calvin College, Professor Fondse to give me some hot tips to become an outstanding mentor. Here are some:
- listen carefully
- set aside immediate responses and allow the person on the other side of the table to be as forthcoming as is appropriate
- validate the issue being expressed
- ask probing questions
- when you recognise doubt or anxiety or insecurity, allow that to be expressed
- affirm the journey that the student is on
- allow ambiguity
- be available
My favourite tip is “allow ambiguity” because it’s not always the answers we seek when we speak our hearts to someone. Sometimes we just want to talk to someone. Nothing more. Sometimes we want to be lost so that we can be found later. So maybe just listening and allowing ambiguity, making room for discovery and surprise lets the speaker to discover something wonderful on the way.