We charm by coincidence rather than design.”

Alain de Botton

It’s not always the makeup, fancy dress, the profile pictures or the jewellery that appeals. Her hand writing, the pencil she uses, the way she holds her bag, the clothes she wears after church, the way she drives her car, the way she orders her coffee at the cafe or how her bangs are randomly scattered across her forehead can be much more appealing. These are not written down rules from a magazine or dating books. These are arbitrary, unplanned, undirected and random things that grabs attention.